The First Love and I were talking about how hard it is to find someone, and it brought to mind Douglas Adams' lessons on how to fly ...
All it requires is simply the ability to throw yourself forward with all your weight, and the willingness not to mind that it's going to hurt.
(The link, by the way, is eminently worth the click for the brief but full text.)
It's all very funny, of course, but there is an extremely bittersweet and painful truth in it: you can't get what you want most by concentrating on it to the exclusion of all else; and yet, distracting yourself from what you want most is almost impossible.
But that means ... it's still possible.